Can the Past heal the Future?

They always say that we are taught History so that we can learn from the past and not make the same mistakes.  The same can be said for learning from our past mistakes.  You learn about what kinds of girls/guys you shouldn’t date, or that mixing various types of alcohol on a wild and crazy night means a massive hangover the next day.  Those are things we can remember to learn from (or things our friends have told us about that need to be learned from LOL).  But have you ever stopped to consider that perhaps there are lessons that we need to learn from our past lives?

I don’t think it’s uncommon for people to attribute strong or irrational fears to things that have happened in our past lives.  I know that I have a very real fear or drowning and have always believed that I was a passenger on the Titanic.  Some may say that is silly, but I always had an obsession with the Titanic and had very strong and real feelings when I attended the Titanic exhibits.  This concept doesn’t seem foreign to me at all.  Recently  I read an article about healing current life issues through healing the akashic records.  The author discussed how knowing about patterns in our past lives can lead us to ways to heal ourselves.

To me this is an interesting concept.  I’ve always joked about having been a womanizing man in my past life and that’s why I have been so unlucky in love during this life.  Maybe it’s not truly a joke?  Perhaps karma does shift through the akashic records and affects us in following life times.  Stay tuned for more discussions on past lives as I delve more into using reiki to help heal our own akashic records.






When the Drama Llama comes for a visit…

As you may have noticed, I have been absent from my regularly scheduled blog posts.  Part of this is due to the fact that we have entered “Lecture Season” within my paranormal research group, South Jersey Ghost Research.  Don’t get me wrong, I love going out and presenting about what we do, but it’s very time-consuming between our lectures and events.  Traveling all over the state after working all day doesn’t leave me too much time to talk about the trials and tribulations of being psychic…. and oh are there tribulations…

Drama stinks for everyone, but I think even a little more so for those of us who are sensitive, especially if Empathy is like your middle name.  I don’t know about you, but when I’m in a situation that has people upset with one another, I can’t help but feel all of the emotions.  THAT, my friends, is where it can get difficult to really keep your head on straight and see what is in front of you!  It’s hard to separate out what you are feeling, and what you are feeling from other people.

Now, let me be clear, this blog post is NOT to vent about my, Drama Llama save it for your mama, incidents recently.  It is to teach and remind us all how we can self preserve and move forward in these situations.  I believe one of the keys to getting through situations like mine is to ground and shield.  Ok, Ok! I’ve probably lost some of you right now, but don’t worry I’ll explain.

Grounding and shielding are imperative to the preservation of sensitives everywhere!  Grounding is what helps keep us centered and focused.  Most people become un-grounded fairly easily, and sensitive people become un-grounded even more easily.  Click here for an exercise to help you get grounded and centered.  This is not the only way of grounding, but something I’ve found useful. If you’re not grounding and shielding, then you may as well just be walking outside naked… maybe that’s a bit of a stretch but I think you get what I mean.  Shielding is a whole different ball game! Shielding is the protection that we can provide our energy/aura  to combat against being drained by things such as DRAMA!  One of the simplest forms of shielding that I teach people is to imagine yourself surrounded by a big bubble of white light. The white light is there to light you through the darkness and provide only positive energy to you.  It will help to dispel any negative energy around you.  Click Here  for other shielding techniques:    My current favorite is to imagine that I am wearing an Iron Man suit.  Yes, you read that right, Iron Man LOL.  I love Iron Man and the varying levels of protection, plus the speed at which Tony Stark could be suited up.  I use this visualization for my own use on investigations.

I hope that these little tips and tricks will help you next time the Drama Llama comes knocking at your door!  I know it helps me in most cases!

Save the Drama Llama for your Mama 😀


It Feels Like the First Time

One of the questions that I get asked the most about my sensitivity is when I first realized I had “IT”.  I can honestly say that I don’t remember a defining moment.  There wasn’t that one thing that clued me in.  I’ve had experiences for as long as I can remember.  Some of those experiences were seeing, feeling or in the form of premonitions.  The problem for me was, my family is Italian so I come from a long line of sensitives.  For the longest time I believed that what I was experiencing was normal and something that everyone experienced.   My family members have experienced so many of the things I have that it was just something that I was used to.  It wasn’t until I got older and started talking to other kids about ghosts and realized I wasn’t really “normal”, not everyone had these experiences.

Growing up  I had so many experiences seeing spirits, knowing things before they happened and just other basic intuitive moments about people and life.  One of the most notable was when I was 10 years old and went to the Jennie Wade House in Gettysburg.  We were walking around with our tour group and I saw a woman in a white dress who was there for a moment and then gone. I turned to my mom and told her about the ghost I had just seen.  She tried to reason it away that I was just imagining things but I knew I wasn’t.  It wasn’t until I started reading book after book about hauntings that I found out that the Jennie Wade House was reported to be haunted and have since learned others have seen the same thing there that I had.  This was a big moment for me!

It was many years after this experience when I joined South Jersey Ghost Research (SJGR) and began to explore my intuition.  When I joined the group I figured I would just go with the flow and hope that maybe I would see something along the way.   Well, not only did I SEE something, I also started to feel, hear and communicate with spirits.  At the time this all started happening I couldn’t process it all.  I remember spending an hour on the phone with the Directors of SJGR because I was ready to quit.   I had an experience that completely threw me over the edge.  During an investigation the night before, I had been sitting on the steps in a private home.  I began to feel something around my neck that started to tighten and then felt as if the tightening was pulling up under my chin and jaw.  It was then I blurted out, asking if someone had hung themself in the home.  It turned out that a prior occupant had in fact hung himself in the garage behind the house.  That feeling scared the living day lights out of me.  Luckily the directors talked me into staying and I learned more about shielding and grounding techniques.

I am thankful for the guidance provided to me in regards to my abilities!  We are ALL sensitive (psychic).  Some people have the ability stronger than others and some work really hard to build on their ability!  In the end, it should not be something you are afraid of like I was.  There are so many resources out there to learn from and gain information!  Never be afraid to ask 😀


To share… or not to share?

I always consider my “gift” a blessing and at times a curse . I think most people have the capacity to understand why it can be such a burden to “know” things.   One area that this gift becomes a curse is when there is a relationship involved.  My friends often come to me asking me what I think is going to happen with them and their new partner.  Sometimes I see a good, positive lasting relationship!  Other times, I want to shake the friend and tell them to run in the opposite direction! Quickly!  I usually have to decide in a split second if I’m going to reveal my impression, or just say “you’ll have to figure it out for yourself, since you won’t listen to me anyway!!”  Let’s face it, most people ask for advice, but if it’s not what they want to hear, they dismiss it.

Usually, I regret sharing my insight on situations that deal with the heart.  Now, I don’t claim all of this to be psychic guidance.  I know that much of it is just common sense or my ability to watch people and analyze their behavior.  Most recently I shared with a friend to just be guarded against the person she was seeing.  Things seemed to be going well, but moving pretty quickly.  The “L” word was dropped by the other person kinda quickly and there was even talk about the future, moving in together, marriage etc.  Once I mentioned to be guarded, my friend couldn’t fathom what she needed to be guarded from.  Everything was going great, until well, it wasn’t.  Things ended pretty abruptly with the other person stating they weren’t sure if they wanted to settle down just yet,”let’s be friends” yada yada… you get the point!  My friend then understood why I said she should be guarded.  My guides were telling me that this person wasn’t ready to settle down, but sometimes people just need to learn for themselves.

I am so sympathetic and empathetic to this.  I’m not immune either! There are plenty of times when I meet someone new and that little voice kicks in telling me just how things will end.  I always believe that we can alter some things so I go along with things until they end, just as I had seen in the beginning.  People ask me if I knew it was going to happen, then why didn’t I walk away to begin with.  My answer is that people come into our lives for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.  Some of the people I have dated fit all of those categories.  They make up life experiences and have helped mold me into who I am today.  My point is, not all stories have a happy, fairy tale ending, but that doesn’t mean the time and experiences with another person aren’t worthwhile.  Things aren’t black and white.  Sometimes yes, you should run far away from that person before things even get serious, other times its worth the ride for a little while. Don’t analyze my advice every step of the way.  Take the ride and see what happens, if I say stay guarded, it means just, that stay guarded.. if I say Run, Put on those Adidas and head for the Hills!


Have a Drink On Me

Many reading this blog know that I lost a very close friend a few years back.   Mike died at 36 years old, much sooner than anyone should pass.  It hit me like a ton of bricks when I got the news.  Once the shock was done, I cried over the fact that I would never talk to him again.   Friends tried to console me and provide the same advice I have given so many.  They reminded me that he would always be around and I could always talk to him.  I know I tell everyone these very things, but it was sort of a “Do as  I say, not as I do” moment.  I looked for signs of him being around for months.  Friends of mine who weren’t close with him were giving me messages that he was passing along and that made me even more resentful.  I wanted so much for my friend who swore he would “haunt” me if he died first to let me know he was around LOL.  I finally got my moment in a very startling way, I was woken up one night to a whistle, that was undoubtedly his.  When i woke I saw his face quickly flash before me and I felt peace knowing he had come to see me.  Mike was always very intrigued by the paranormal and my abilities to speak with those who have passed on, so it’s no surprise he has tried to make contact.

Last night, I received a message from a mutual friend, Rachel, asking if  I’ve ever “talked” to Mike.  I told her my story about being woken up, but not much more than that.   She told me that she had recently been out for her Bachelorette party and they ordered a round of Lemon Drop shots to celebrate the occasion.  When the shots arrived, they were not Lemon Drop shots, they were shots of Jagermeister.   You may be laughing, thinking ok, big deal, they screwed up a drink order.  However, Mike was a HUGE fan of Jager.  All of his friends know this and we all associate him with the drink.  Rachel felt like this was Mike’s way of wishing her luck and I couldn’t agree more.   Sometimes we get big messages and sometimes we get small messages, but they are all important.  Pay attention, you might be missing messages from your loved ones too.


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Grasping at Straws!

The other night Marti and I (along with all of our amazing guides) presented a Mediumship Gallery at the Ghost Hunter Store.  This wasn’t my first rodeo in the Mediumship world, but it certainly was one of my more challenging evenings.  Perhaps I was exhausted from presenting a gallery the night before, perhaps it was the attendees or just a combination of everything.  I felt the energy flowing so strongly during our session and I was receiving some very clear messages, yet they weren’t connecting to a person in the room.  Before sessions like this, I always pray that things will run smoothly, that people will make the connections they are hoping, wanting and/or needing.  There is always the little voice of doubt that says “What if I can’t make those connections today?”.  EGO.. EGO rears it’s ugly head every time!  At the end of the day, it’s not me who is making the connection anyway, it’s my guides and their guides coming together to bring messages through.  I’m the conduit for the energy.

I beat myself up too much and put too much pressure on my readings (insert EGO) again, but to my defense I have to listen, look, feel, smell, sense, discern, describe and communicate all at the same time. That stuff ain’t easy!!  I like to think that my experiences like this are not only a lesson to me, but are ones others can learn from too.  For those who are just learning about their gift and exploring things, you have to trust yourself, not beat yourself down.  When you learn to let go of the negativity and trust your intuition things will flow.  Take personal EGO out of it, let your intuition and guides provide you the information you are searching.


It’s a Wonderful, Psychic life

For many years I have contemplated writing a book about the trials and tribulations of being me.  I am no one special in this big world.. errr.. universe.  However, I was blessed(cursed) with a personality that can draw people in as quickly as it can scare them away.  No, I’m not crazy, I’m a Psychic and Medium.   Yes, you read that right!  If you are reading this and don’t know me, you have probably already formed an opinion of me.  You may think that I’m an older woman, with large “jersey” hair and gypsy type clothing.  Let me assure you though, this is far from me.  My name is Nikki and I’m actually a mid thirties, fun loving chick who keeps the hair tamed down and wears skinny jeans and flip flops to readings. I talk to dead people, do paranormal investigations and angel cards.  I read energy and will form an opinion on a person or place within minutes.  I channel energy through me to help heal others… you know just your every day gal LOL.

Oh the joys of this gift… If i had a dollar for every time I’ve been asked “Isn’t it cool to know things that others don’t?”… ummmmm… Sometimes!? LMAO.  Sure it’s cool to be able to help someone reconnect with their passed loved ones, it’s such a healing process for them  It’s useful to be able to read a person quickly and decide that they are someone who isn’t going to cause anything but trouble for you.  But these same abilities can become a burden… friends come to you looking for advice but freak out when you tell them things they don’t want to hear….  knowing when people are going to die, and the examples go on and on.

This blog is not meant to be a “Debbie Downer”!  I want to share the good, the bad and the ugly about my psychic life.  I’ll be sharing my WOWS and WOES!  Stay tuned for one hell of a ride,  my life really is a tumultuous energetic ride!

Stay classy & thanks for stopping by!